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How BIG is your BUT? – How your but size can hinder your dreams

Today more than ever it seems that there is something in the water contributing to the size of everybody’s BUT.  Every day I as long as I can remember, I’ve had a conversation with someone, male or female about their BUT. Some of them are so huge that you can see them coming a mile a way.

I confess, I’m guilty of it too. Sometimes I like thinking about my BUT.  I’ve found that the more that I work on my BUT, the more other people seem to accept its unusual size and shape. If your BUT is anything like mine, you probably have inspired others to work on developing their BUTS too.

If you’ve read this far, you probably think that I’ve made several typos of the word “BUT” throughout my perverted discourse. I didn’t. I wasn’t referring to my nice shapely ass. I’m referring to the excuses that I use sometimes for not always following my dreams.

Whether its leaving my boy Darius hanging on the trip to Spain last year, bailing out on my trip to Costa Rica twice this past January & again 2 weeks ago, or about 10 other things that I’ve let slip away. I’ve realized that despite living a pretty decent life currently, my but is still way too big.

I’ve used every BUT exercise available to make sure that my BUT stays fat. I’ve used:

I was gonna do this but, (insert your favorite below)
• I don’t have enough time.
• I don’t want to go by myself
• I don’t have enough money
• I got to get my house rented or sold
• I got too much work to do
• I’m don’t want to leave my family
• I don’t speak the language
• I’m scared I’m gonna get kidnapped

These are all common excuses that we’ve all used for not doing something that could have been radically life changing. Its amazing how a few simple words uttered to save face, have robbed us of more wealth and happiness than anything else we will experience during our lifetime.

It’s as if we are fooling the people that we are showing our BUTS to. REALLY???? They have BUTS of their own, so they definitely can smell your BUT coming a mile away, regardless of how fancy you may dress it up.

I know what you are thinking, “Man getting rid of this big ole BUT is gonna be hard.” Well you will never get rid of your BUT entirely, you just want to make it small so that its not getting in the way all the time. All you have to do is start. That’s it. Start!!! What ever your dreams are, write them down. Then pick one and START!!!

I bet after reading that last sentence, a BUT is already forming in your mind as to why you cant start. (Is this why people are called BUT Heads?) START anyway. Instead of watching tv, twittering, facebooking, or reading another book start taking the first steps to following your dreams.

This blog used to hide under my BUT. I have a goal to write a book. My idea is that if I write blogs regularly eventually I will have  about 200 pages written by the end of the year. Regardless of if this book is ever published. I will be able to cross off my “Things to do before I die list, #76.Write a book.” This idea actually came from one of my frat brothers name John, who found himself entertained by my facebook status updates blog entries.

I’ve found that the easiest way to get rid of a big BUT, is to share the dream that’s hiding underneath with people who are more successful than you. This is because they usually have had the same dream or may know someone who’s already accomplished it. This can be a great thing, because this person can see beyond your nice voluptuous BUT, and see the real you on the inside. They will usually offer some type of encouragement or direction and even offer to do something to help you along the way.

Also, once you start even the first small steps of following your dreams, you will begin to think that you don’t have enough time to work on other things. I promise you if you are not pursuing at least one of your dreams right now, your friends probably hate talking to you. Because all you do is probably complain about stuff and aren’t as exciting to talk to as the people that they know that seem to be enjoying their lives.

So START NOW!!! There will never be a perfect time to start. You will always be too young, to broke, to fat, to tired or whatever…. When its all said and done like most BUTS, the one you are currently considering is probably full of shit too.

The sad truth is that most of the things that you and I both dream about, sometimes we just don’t want them as bad as we think we do. And that’s okay sometimes.

Wouldn’t it be a shame if you spent the rest of your short life trying to use your BUT to distract people from the fact that you’ve given up on the person that it belongs to?

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Journeys into the past to make sense of our present

How do we make the connection between social identity, community, objects and the self?And more importantly why is that important to anyone outside of a university professor? Well it seems to me because our current ongoing communications revolution, all these things play an important role and affect us all in our daily lives.

So if you are interested then read on – this is a note that a PHD student mailed to me after overhearing a conversation I had in Cambridge recently….

“I was sitting in Grad’s cafewhen I accidentally overheard yourself talking to someone about networking and SMLXL.

Now, I have absolutely no knowledge of networking in the modern context and how it relates to businesses; however, what did strike me in the small snippet of conversation that I heard, was that much of what you seem to be talking about runs in parallel to much of the social theory being used within archaeological theory today. Basically, many archaeologists are now beginning to realise that the behaviour of people (I am referring to stuff that was going one about 20,000 years ago when mobile art, figurines and parietal – cave – art largely first appeared in Europe) had much to do with building and maintaining networks, not just with people but also with other elements of the world). Of particular interest is that some archaeologists are now discussing the role of possessing and interacting with mobile (e.g. animal) figurines as a means of creating and maintaining human identity. (This is something explored in Lewis Hyde’s book The Gift, Creativity and the Artist in the Modern World)

Much of the ethnographic data suggests that these people actually thought of these objects, and other things in the world, as  being part of them in a very real way. Thus, when objects such as these are exchanged, it is not simply that they represent the identity of a person (e.g. relative): they actually are part of the person. Archaeologists are also beginning to employ social theories such as Actor-Network Theory to explore such concepts.

What I have now realised is that the way that people engage with objects and media (e.g. mobile phones) in the Western’ world today is not so different to 20,000 years ago. I am not saying that people thought about the world in the same way. But what seems to be apparent, especially with the enormous rise of social networking today, is that human identity is embodied with in the very objects (real and virtual) that people use, and when people communicate with each other it is not simply a matter of communication, but it is in a very real way part of themselves that is being sent/communicated. This is very interesting, because human identity then becomes something which is not confined to the immediacy of the person and the immediate surrounding world, but is distributed throughout the world in the form of pictures, emails etc.

Interaction with these things (both real and virtual) then becomes a matter of necessity, as it did during the Palaeolithic, as their identity or personhood is embodied within these things. No longer can be people be socially secure (i.e. interact with important elements of the known world on a regular basis) through normal modes of communication: in order to maintain a sense of social cohesion people must now continually interact with elements of their identity that are distributed throughout the globe via objects (e.g. phones). Social cohesion becomes a matter of remote rather than direct interaction.

Anyway, to cut a long story a bit shorter, I think that much of the theoretical knowledge that I have in understanding how people interact, and relate to the world around them could be directly transposed and used within a modern-day context. Not only that, I think that much of the archaeological/anthropological/ethnographic data/discourse might actually be very useful in providing new insights and directions in the ways that companies today think about how their product relates to the people that are using it.”

After reading this I was a bit gobsmacked – partly because a stranger had overheard a conversation, in Cambridge and was prepared to make such a bold introduction and that it resonated so profoundly with me. I wonder aloud, that as this communication I+We revolution continues, we start to revert to some of this stuff that Patrick our PHD student explains – where objects virtual or not, take on meaning for communities of people? Some communities might be localised, or tight in a geographic area, but equally they might be distributed flung across the globe and connected by passion? I as someone who built their first career in creating meaning and context for 20th Century branded products/services, and saw often, though not always, the vacuity of this exercise, and in a world where 25% of all media will be made by us by 2012 – I suggest there are implications.

As we find and create bonds to things that mean more to us, that could inspire and motivate passionate action, this leaves those that fail to create meaning in a dilemma – it could be a brand (who cares?), or a school, or an organisation, even a government – at least food for thought!